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Sadness

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What is sadness? Think about this question while reading this blog you may of the bat have a preconceived notion that this post will be depressing and it would not be worth reading. But I challenge you to not assume or have a preconceived notion just from the title of this blog. You must also be wondering why is Devashish dwelling into a depressing emotion especially when it is a month of sunshine and rain. Or even better you may not even have any of those thoughts, or you may be just curious as to how I will explain such a depressing emotion and still make it inspiring for you all to read it. This blog post is connected to anger or any other emotional post I may make in the future.

Sadness is a very complicated emotion just like anger and etc. But we all know too well what causes sadness maybe it is a response to a situation, circumstances, emotional response to something we saw or miss someone near to us. This emotion will be the bi-product emotion in response to many emotional blogs I will be posting in the future, which you will notice by the way. So let’s get back to what sadness is! This is how I define sadness and that is sad is an emotion that is flexible to work with all the emotions within our mind, as it is easily expressible through happiness, anger, fear, sadness or even a heartfelt connection to a person or a fictional character in a movie or in a book. In our society sadness is thought to be a negative and a gender-oriented emotion, for example, women are emotional so they are able to cry whenever, whereas men cannot cry because they are supposed to be strong, hardy, and can be seen as a crybaby if they do cry. Just because society has deemed that emotion to be irrelevant to men that do not mean they cannot cry. On the Contrary, I believe that people should be free to express their emotional state freely, however, some of you may disagree, but that is fine. I find that society’s viewpoint on men unable to express their emotional state to be ill logical or irrational thought or norm. Sadness is an emotion that helps us maintain our humanity, helps us reflect on our mistakes and challenges that we have overcome so far, and always forces us to look forward. In many cases from a personal experience of sadness has helped me develop my soft skill of empathy, therefore I am able to channel people’s worries and their crisis that they come to me with to discuss.

How you may ask has sadness made me an empathetic human being? Well when watching movies not sad preferably, I tend to be sucked into the character’s world or feel the emotions they feel within the movie or within a scene of that movie; or even in an anime (Japanese cartoons), I watch. This one particular anime called Violet Evergarden has always never ceased my teary eyes due to the scenes that the protagonist and the clients play. Violet Evergarden is about a woman who writes letters for people all around the world that means she travels a lot for her clients to write them their letter and see it delivered to the rightful person. The main part of the anime is when she meets her clients who she is hired to write a letter to. The anime’s storyline is so well done and every micro emotion and non-verbal and verbal dialogues you can relate to the client’s difficulties and main character’s willpower to write the letter, which does not concern them no matter how sad or emotional, the letter is because it is to make the teller strong to leave a mark so they can pass on. And the fact after when you find out what the letter was about you cannot help, but cry for the recipient of the letter. For me or anyone that can somewhat understand humans and their desire to leave a legacy or a positive note before they pass on or to let the recipient know that they are ok. I feel that the main character learns a lot from these faithful encounters with her clients, even though the clients are the one that asks for Violet Evergarden to write the letters for them. It is a beautiful anime regardless of whether you like anime or not, but for sure I recommend watching it to see the relation of sadness and how the client and the main character face’s it through strength, courage, and positive wishes for their recipients. I made a point that at least once a year or a month I will watch or hear the sad music because it makes one relate to the artist that makes the music and also keeps you empathetic and grateful of living in the present.

I recommend watching heartfelt movies or whatever that makes you feel grateful and grounded. Use sadness as that emotion to help you elevate in areas where no emotion can go, but only sadness. You will feel enlightened to the experiences that you acquire and you will come to understand yourself that much more. Do not label it to be a hindering emotion, but instead as an emotion to make other emotions stronger and also your spirit that becomes much stronger as you progress through life, you will also attain strength that you never knew that you had. In fact, all emotions are there to help you out whether they may be good or bad, they are going to be present in your mind. In many cases, sadness has given me the ability to heal or refreshed or rejuvenation and reflect on how far I have come and yet can go. It also makes me grateful for coming across challenges and hurdles that have made me stronger and matured me a bit.  To explain further as to how sadness is an important emotion I will give an example that you may be able to relate to better. I saw a video on Facebook where it showed people crying while watching a movie. While, I was watching the video it said that people that cry when watching any movies whether it may be sad or not has the ability to make a meaningful relations to the fictional character’s journey or anyone’s journey in real life in whatever capacity they may be going through one could relate because it shows how much developed you are as a person. The video said that the people that cry not just when watching a movie, but in anything that is worth crying about should be taken care of because those people are very important in this world because they can relate to people’s challenge and hardships faster in a more developed empathetic way. I also recommend watching that video, which is on Facebook on my timeline or saved under my profile.

First, accept sadness. Realize that without losing, winning isn’t so great.

——Alyssa Milano

So, now that you have read about how sadness can be a reflective and a strengthening emotion; do you still think sadness is a depressive emotion or do you think that all emotions have the ability to make you strong mentally, physically, and spiritually in some capacity? I leave that interpretation up to you. Because I know for sure that sadness has made me more reflective and to realize that I have the power to move forward with sadness on my back constantly backing my state of mind up, I know that I have nothing to feel worried about. It also has made me humble, grounded, and grateful for the life I am living in this very moment. So my question at the beginning of the blog about what is sadness to you, because until you don’t find the answer for yourself you will never allow sadness to help you push yourself further and for you to keep growing in your life and learning. Even though other emotions are there to help you in that endeavour, but you will always feel that some part of you is always missing.

 

Love

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Loves’ definition in my dictionary means that one attains the strength in seeing and making one happy and supporting oneself or a loved one to rise when they fall. Love can come in many forms, such as the love of human beings, love of self, and love of aesthetics. These forms of love can help one grow, learn to love each other, which strengthens bonds between other human beings, and love for material like money can most often bring negative mental issues such as depression, bad marriage, and one-dimensional thought of how to enjoy life.

Let’s start with the first form of love of each other, this is a very common form of love that we see present in society. Based on my knowledge loving each other is a perfect form of love, because it sets you up with responsibilities, goals, aspirations for you and your partner to aim and to achieve together as one. This way you start creating an unbreakable bond that leads to the spontaneous emotion of love. With love, you feel invincible and at another level of enlightenment in your heart. Love can heal and reignite your desire to display the best version of yourself that is worthy to have a partner to spend one’s life with. Love can also help renew your moral compass as a human being with the help of guidance from your partner. Love gives you an adventure with your partner that can prove to make you feel alive, acknowledged, brings meaning and purpose to your life, and happiness. Love makes you feel accomplished and ambitious in not worrying about what you want to do, but wholeheartedly to pour and commit in your ambition together. With the accomplishments, you want to genuinely share them with one another. This is what leads one down the road of greatness and faith in the relationship with the partner to keep forging ahead with help and guidance. Lastly, this love can bring out your true self and you lead a healthy and positive lifestyle.

Love of self is a factor that happens before the love of each other. This love is the most important form of love as it creates one’s moral compass, personality, the gaze of how society views you, and what type of human being you are as an individual. This form of love amplifies the persona you leave on other people around you that may like you as a friend or even more as a lover. Love can help show that you are a caring, positive, confident, and happy individual who loves the company of other people. However, this can be reversed if you are a quiet, shy, and introvert it can be hard or a challenge to make friends due to your personality or nature. Love of self can also avoid a variety of mental illnesses such as depression, self-isolation, anxiety-disorder, and etc. With these disorders, you are far less likely to lead a healthy active lifestyle as a human being. Adding to this love can play a major role in these aspects of yourself in moulding into what type of a human being you become. Love yourself it is the best thing that can ever happen to us, it can make us happy and caring.

Love of aesthetic is the last form of love because it is the love of “stuff” this stuff can be anything but it is tangible in nature. This love can be the catastrophe because it can lead to divorces, isolation, one-dimensional thought of just working, and this can also lead to depression, and suicide ideation. This love is an unhealthy form of love in my opinion. However, I may be wrong because this love can also help the foster love of self, and through this form of love, you could potentially find a relationship with another human being. This love can somewhat connect to other two love but it’s not that common just so you guys understand this fact.

Love & Compassion are necessaties, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.

——–Dalai Lama

Therefore lack of love can cause a lot of mental health issues because as a fact we as human beings seek each other as a way of completing us as individuals and that can only be done with love. As mentioned that there are three types of loves: love of fellow human beings, love of self, and love of aesthetics.

Happy Fathers Day

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Father’s day is a special day for our dads who have guided us with an iron fist throughout all our hardships and have taught us that there is always a way out of any challenges. Our Fathers have taught us the importance of independent thinking and yet have nurtured us with an extreme amount of love and discipline. Fathers help us understand that there are no faults in our beings because that is what makes our individuality unique and great. The reason our fathers encourage to discern this fact is that he understands that we bring different strengths and beauty into this world. Hence our fathers encourage us to delve into those strengths with discipline in constant forging our path to our desired dreams. In a way, our fathers portray these notions on us that our life is an abstract art, hence we all have the power to change it in whatever we seek. With this bold understanding as to how my father and many fathers I believe are like, I can say that they all have wisdom and a lot of experiences that can help us in understanding our purpose in life.

Fathers have great senses of humour which cheer us up and keep us from feeling sorry for ourselves and always making us laugh hard so that every day of every moment is a memory that we cherish as fellow sons and daughters within our home. One thing I learned is that my father is a being that has experienced failures and has made many mistakes, however, his mistakes have given me the clarity to an understanding that making mistakes and withstanding them is what makes us humans. My dad taught me many lessons in life, but this lesson stood out to me the most because I now understand that mistakes and failures move us forward in stepping that much more closer to our fulfillment in accomplishing our lifelong dreams. Many of us can see that our perceptions of our dads have changed since we were young from being a superhero. Now I see him as a teacher and a fellow human being, like me, who has the potential to shake the very foundation of the earth that we live on. I see my dad as a beacon of humanity within this world. To me, a father is defined as more than a superhero or a guardian; he is a path for us to walk upon from the darkness to the light, from chaos to harmony.

Lastly, I want to point to the fact that my father is awesome because though he harbours negative qualities, he also has positive ones, which I hold too much highest esteem. Negative and positive qualities are what makes my dad that much more exceptional to me. I hope to continue to learn from him as his son and hope to adapt to his positive qualities and make them my own. I also understand that all fathers are exceptional to their sons and daughter. I am going to continue to learn from my father and adapt to his mistakes so I don’t make them as well.
I love you, dad! So please continue to be the dad you are and please always foster me to grow into a human being that can make this world quake in my accomplishments. Please be my teacher and always force me to be the person that never looks down, but looks up at the world. That could be for myself and for you and everyone you and I hold dear. You are my teacher and light in the dark that never wavers or breaks. And most of all you are the foundation that encourages me to make step-by-step through hardship and accomplishments. You warm my heart in a cold world!

My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believes in me.

——–Jim Valvano

Time

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Time is a series of fleeting moments of our experiences, but yet its pressure burdens us in our everyday lives. It is intriguing to dissect time and to find the answers as to why time has become our master and us its slaves. I feel that, if we let time dictate our path, we become machines, thus inhibiting us from truly enjoying the opportunities and the joy that life gives us. The comfort that we experience in life helps each of us live our life to the fullest. Bad experiences and good experiences are both groundbreaking foundations of our being and our reality we experience. Through a gaming perspective, one would think that reality is a video game that has an open-world concept with a slice-of-life factor and bunch of other factors mixed into it. Many people are bored with the everyday life that they are leading, but finding a rhythm to what your purpose in life is; that is when everything comes into perspective. Then time becomes nothing but a unit to our existence as we go on in enjoying our lives. Yet, if there is more to time and life than just leading them – like we have been leading them since our evolution – then I would like to understand that. I know that time has become a defining fact to our existence, but I feel that it is naive to think that there is not much to do but carry on our day-to-day life. That is surviving rather than enjoying life. Never let people constrict you in doing what you want to do because at the end of the day it comes down to individual decisions rather than a joint decision because you are the master of your destiny. Though time is an intangible unit, we can feel it through ageing and constant discovery of ourselves through experiences.

Time is a constant variable throughout our lives, but it also tells us that we only get one chance at it, hence best not to waste it, but to embrace the connections and the people that are around you, to be honest it can get kind of hard to do that, because of our commitments that we set for ourselves day-to-day in hopes of our character growing. Looking through a gaming perspective again, we can keep playing the same character without it ageing, and if it dies, it respawns from our saved point, which abolishes the constraint of time being a factor for the character. It is important to understand that time is, in a sense, wasted when playing games like that; however, we find it entertaining and also helps our mind with being tactful rather than using for creativity. That does not mean games do not use creative side either. In fact, on the contrary, taking your time to invent novel solutions to problems allows us to be creative and therefore allows us to conceptualize the inner fury of our passion within our soul. Time is an important factor throughout our lives as beings of evolution.

Lastly, I want to end this by stating that time is a luxury as well as important in developing one’s peace of mind and also sharing the joy of life with people around you. Time helps gamers create creative perspectives of survival while playing the game in reality as well as virtually.

Over time, the games play can change how we think and what we’re capable of. And it is easy to maximize the benefits so the changes are positive.

— Jane McGonigal